Monday, July 26, 2010
Ethiopian Courts - Rain, Rain, Go Away
We also found out another piece of information today. When we travel to Ethiopia on our first trip to visit our little girl, she will still not legally be our daughter. Because of this, it sounds like they are not going to introduce us to her as her parents. We will not be able to express to her that we are her parents and she is our daughter. This is to protect her since at that point we will not legally be her parents and if after being introduced to her as her "parents" and something strange happened where the legal system rejected us, she could be left orphaned for a second time. I don't know exactly what it will look like when we visit her, but it certainly will be awkward expressing to her how we feel about her. It is also heart-wrenching thinking about leaving her for several months before we return to bring her home. In addition, it is likely that they will not give her the photo album we prepare for her until the court decision is complete.
The bringing together of an orphan and a family is really a strange thing. It has so many levels. On one level it is a legal relationship that is given the final approval by the Ethiopian and American legal systems. Very cold and sterile. On another level altogether, it is bringing a child into a loving home where emotions are highly engaged. Emotions both for us and for her - probably far more for her due to the hurt she will likely be coming from and the many, many things she has to give up when she comes to America. Our mind rattles these things around and we are reminded once again that we are resting in God. It is in His hands - thankfully!